Take, for example, the demographics of the Sugar Baby Summit: it was overwhelmingly populated by female SBs seeking male Sugar Daddies.

One of the site reps chalked this up, in part, to some gender-biased language in the first email blast sent out about the event, which was later changed to be more inclusive. I asked if there were any plans for LGBT mixers or "gender swapped" summits in the future, and was met with a response that irked me, both as a feminist and as a queer woman.

I was like, 'Oh my god, oh my god, what was I thinking?

'"So I got completely off the site, but I had given my number out to one guy before that, and we dated for four months. He was married, and he loved the idea of having this affair, and I fell into the whole gimmick. He gave me a credit card, and I had a certain amount to spend on it.

Of course, these tactics have their place in any power dynamic.

But only once you've explicitly discussed your needs, desires, and expectations, and established boundaries and consent.

We would go shopping, and we were supposed to go to Paris together, and I was like, When did you get back on the site? At first, I was against dating a married man, but a lot of them are married.

The ones you might have things in common with, or the ones you would be attracted to, they're married.In the past few months, we've chatted with sugar babies making anywhere from £2,000 to £10,000 a month.Some view sites like Seeking Arrangement or as extensions of online dating — with a few more benefits."It's about looking for what you want, knowing your boundaries, being smart, going after what you want."There are plenty of women who live both as Sugar Babies and as active feminists — the two are not mutually exclusive.What is anti-feminist, however, is how the Summit undermined its attempt to empower women by encouraging dishonesty and manipulation dressed up as ~flirtatious teasing~ and coquettishness.As a sugar baby, that doesn’t want to work a real job, I don’t want to work out very hard at the gym to keep it tight and toned body or are youthful complexions so a rejuvenation vacation to the Miami Institute sounds exactly like what the doctor ordered.